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the resume trap

Your extracurricular list might be working against you.

I see it all the time. The student with twelve activities. Model UN, debate, two sports, volunteer work, a coding club, and that nonprofit they started sophomore year. The resume looks impressive. The story falls apart.

Ask them why they do any of it. You get rehearsed answers about leadership and impact. Ask what they would drop if they had to. They look panicked. Everything matters. Nothing does.

This is the resume trap. You build a profile so broad, so optimized for impressiveness, that it stops being yours.

Why breadth fails

Admissions officers read thousands of applications. They have seen every version of the manufactured profile. The nonprofit founded for college apps. The volunteer hours logged for the check box. The club joined for the title.

They are not fooled.

What stands out is coherence. A student who can explain why they care about what they care about. Who can trace a line from their earliest curiosity to their current pursuits. Who has gone deep on something, anything, because genuine interest pulls you in.

Depth signals authenticity. Breadth often signals performance.

The pressure makes sense

You have been told that colleges want well-rounded students. That you need to show range. That missing an activity means falling behind.

So you accumulate. You say yes to everything. You build the resume that looks right.

But here is what actually happens. You spend your high school years doing things you do not care about, maintaining activities that drain you, building a profile for an audience you will never meet. And somewhere in that scramble, you lose track of what you actually wanted to do.

What depth looks like

I am not saying you need one singular passion. That is another trap. The obsession with finding your "spike" leads to its own kind of performance.

Depth looks like following your curiosity far enough to have something to say about it. It might be one thing. It might be three. The number matters less than the honesty behind it.

A student who has spent three years working at the same animal shelter, who can talk about what she learned about responsibility and disappointment and small victories. That is depth.

A student who taught himself to repair bikes, started fixing them for neighbors, and now runs a small operation out of his garage because he likes solving mechanical problems. That is depth.

A student who writes poetry, not for publication or awards, but because she processes the world through language. That is depth.

None of these are flashy. All of them are real. And real is rare.

The test

Here is a question I ask students. What is one activity you would do even if colleges could not see it?

Not what sounds impressive. Not what your parents want. Not what you think you should say. What would you actually do with your time if no one was watching?

That answer matters. That is where your real story lives.

Sometimes the answer surprises you. The thing you have been treating as a side hobby turns out to be the thing that energizes you. The activity you thought was just for fun contains the seeds of something bigger.

Sometimes the answer is painful. You realize you would drop half your resume immediately. That realization is useful. It tells you where you have been performing and where you have been living.

What to do with this

You do not need to quit everything. That is not the point. The point is to get honest about what you are doing and why.

Look at your activities. Ask yourself:

  • Which ones give me energy?
  • Which ones drain me?
  • Which ones would I do with no external reward?
  • Which ones am I maintaining purely for appearance?

Be ruthless with your time. This is your life. High school feels long, but it is so short. Spending it building a resume you do not believe in is a waste.

Then go deeper on what remains. The activities that survive this filter deserve more of you. More time, more attention, more risk. Push them further. See where they lead.

This is your real metric

Here is what I have learned from working with students who get into great schools. The ones who thrive are not the ones with the longest resumes. They are the ones with the most coherent stories.

They can explain why they did what they did. They can connect the dots between experiences that seemed unrelated. They have gone deep enough on something to know what they think about it.

That coherence comes from authenticity. From doing things because they mattered to you, not because they looked good. From having the courage to be narrow in a culture that rewards breadth.

Your extracurricular list is a story. Make sure it is yours.


What is one activity you would do even if colleges could not see it? Spend some time with that question. The answer might change how you spend your next semester.